While the process of getting a divorce can be challenging for the spouses, children can be affected even more. If you have children and are going through a divorce, it’s important to find ways to make the process easier on your kids. Here are a few things you can do to mitigate the negative impact your separation with your spouse will have on your children.
Although you likely have some strong feelings about your spouse, it’s important that you don’t discuss them in front of the children. Your spouse is still going to be the other parent of your children, and it’s critical that they understand that even though you and your spouse no longer wish to be together, that you both love them and want to take care of them in the best way possible.
A litigated divorce is much harder on the children than mediation. If there’s any way that you and your spouse can meet for mediation and discuss the issues of your divorce — like child custody and property division — in a neutral setting, make it a priority. Mediated divorces tend to be faster and less expensive, which can help to make the entire process easier on your little ones.
Kids will need some extra love and support during a time when their parents are splitting up. They may question if the divorce was their fault, or they may wonder what will be in store for their future. Give them positive support and reinforce the fact that better days are ahead. You may also want to consider enrolling your child in a counseling program to give them an outlet to talk about their feelings and learn tools to cope with the changes in their life as a result of the divorce.
No matter which way you look at it, divorce isn’t a simple or comfortable process to go through. However, with the help of an experienced attorney, you can minimize the negative impact it has on your life and work toward a brighter future. At the Haefner Law Office, we can help. Contact us today for a consultation to discuss your family’s needs and how we can help you and your children at (314) 200-6101.